She Can Principles

Consider what you felt like when you were five years old. Was the world full of wonder and possibilities? Did you believe anything could stop you from achieving your dreams? How important is it how your little girl saw herself? What took her determination away?

If you could go back in time and give your five-year-old self one piece of advice, to take into the journey of your life, what would it be?

I’ve posed this question to several hundred women during my career, and almost all responded with the same answer – They would give their little girl self-belief.

As a lecturer, leadership coach, and consultant, I’ve spent the past fifteen years, focused on helping others succeed. Whether I’m working with postgraduate students, new employees, first-time managers or experienced executives, I heard the same self-doubting voice time and again. Hundreds of women respond, “I want to.. but deep down I don’t believe I’m good enough and I ought to…” These observations are not limited to my own. For years, research papers and books have emphasised just how far-reaching this problem is. We live in a progressive world, yet we have generations of women from widely different cultures, all with the same underlying, self-limiting beliefs.

Are You One of Them?

Do you find yourself in any of these scenarios?

  • You want to pursue your career goal, but your family is a priority
  • You know you’re good at your job, but you don’t raise your voice or push for a promotion because you’re worried about coming across as too pushy or aggressive
  • You want to start a business, but you don’t feel you have either the time or the energy between caring for your children and your ageing parents
  • You never voice your opinions without gauging the emotions of the room
  • You want to pursue a goal, but worry that other mothers will judge you
  • You want to start a business, but you don’t know where to start and fear that people will think badly of you if you fail.
  • You feel too old to go for the dream you always wanted

At She Can, we believe a woman’s future lies in her autonomy and uniqueness. You do not need to live through others to be a woman. Nor do you need to be any size, shape or demonstrate any behaviour to be a woman. She Can Magazine’s mission is to help women of all backgrounds to become the best version of themselves.

“I want to… but deep down I don’t believe I’m good enough and I ought to…”

Whether you’re male, female, or pan-gender, we all face many challenges related to gender inequality in today’s society. As women should not be defined as a carer to be a woman, we have many hopes for inclusivity across all genders. But we cannot wait for attitudes, norms, and the institutional landscape to change.

Women have made us great in the past, and make us great in the present. How many women have lifted us to stand on their shoulders and guide us while achieving our dreams? There is a place for you and all you have become, even if you haven’t developed a career or have experienced many years of turmoil. Your experience, insight and knowledge have an immense value which can be transferred to benefit yourself and others. Success is not only found in corporations and enterprise but in our personal lives too. Women already have the resilience, strength and skill to achieve life-defining and game-changing goals and help others achieve theirs. Women impact the future too.

In the future, we see, there will be no female leaders. There will be just leaders. No matter the background, gender, education, culture, ethnicity, sexuality, health, age, relationship, or financial status, we can each make our positive change and stand alongside others to make theirs.

Here’s to your future!

Nicola Mann